WORDS MATTER!
Our subconscious is loaded with a lot of words we have learned that don’t serve our goals.
When you listen to someone you are in a relationship – This could be at work or during your free time, try to focus on which words they choose to use when they talk about their intentions or describe a situation that wasn’t positive.
“You always….” Or “You are late every time.” Or “everyone thinks I am …”
These are infinite words that mean that the opposite either never happened or will never happen.
Now, we know that that is rarely the case. So… why do we do that?
This is because we have a negative attitude to the situation at hand or to the person we are in a relationship with, but it doesn’t necessarily mean it will always be like that.
We tend to exaggerate because we are annoyed or hurt. It is indeed because we feel victimized.
This is something we do subconsciously, and it is learned. Anything that is learned can be unlearned. We just have to be aware of what using these words means. Find words that can replace that. Like addressing the given situation without generalizing.
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Just do it!
These words can be placed in the same basket as “I Want…” “I will try…” and more. They have a negative feeling because, if you think about it, being told “I will try” subconsciously gives the speaker a pass. You didn’t say I will do it… and can, therefore, come up with an excuse. “I did try but something came up.”
You also hear positive uses of try, that indicate that you intend to do better. Think of Pink’s song Try.
Where there is desire, there is gonna be a flame
Where there is a flame, someone’s bound to get burned
But just because it burns, doesn’t mean you’re gonna die
You gotta get up and try, and try, and try
Gotta get up and try, and try, and try
You gotta get up and try, and try, and try
This still leaves room for failure, even though you do try. A beautiful and encouraging song though. The point is, you need to be aware of your words and inner narrative if you want to succeed in what you set out to do.
You can watch Pink’s video
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